how much commitment is marriage really?

I recently read two articles about marriage. One talked about commitment. There was a story of a young boy who was listening to a talk show and the woman who called in was talking about how she wasn't happy in her marriage and family. They had no money because her husband had just lost his job, her kids were sick and she wasn't really in love with her husband anymore. So the talk show host told her to get out. "You're entitiled to a little happiness...you don't have to stay in this mess. Let your old man solce his own problems. You go find greener pastures." Instead of the host suggesting that she work on her marriage he told her to escape like the commitment and contract of marriage only works when everything in life is running smoothly. There is a difference between a contractual marriage and a covenant marriage. In a contractual marriage, when troubles come, the parties seek happiness by walking away but in a covenant marriage the husband and wife work through the problems. They both put 100% into the marriage and solve the problems together. There is no limit to what you give to your spouse. You give them all you have and they in return give you all they have. You can conquer anything with the help of the Lord. One quote that I loved from this article was about both spouses giving all they have instead of just 50% each and hoping it will work out. If you both give 100% you "share a 'mutually attachment' that eclipses each partner's self-interest." I can't help but picture an actual eclipse. The two have got each other "covered." I am sure this takes a lot of self sacrifice but if you think of your spouse before you think of yourself, always wanting what is best for him/her.

Another quote that I absolutely loved was: "Actual love is truly extending oneself to nurture another individual's growth." It is such a selfless thing that you know it is real love.

The last quote that I loved was: "A happy life isn't about getting what you want; it's about the attitude you develop toward whatever happens to you, an attitude that lets you grow."